Awakening to your true fertility
To all those in the USA, happy Mother’s Day. This is the one day in the year that women are showered in love, admiration and appreciation; cards are sent, flowers are given, bickering ceases and dinner is an enjoyable feast. Then, the day after, everything returns to normal! On this day, there is an implicit understanding that women, who have given birth to a child, have fulfilled their main function in life; to procreate and maintain the survival of the family lineage. But what if women, physical mothers or not, had other seeds to sow? Had something else to offer life? In fact, it’s only in the past two millennia that there has been such an emphasis on procreation and the need to maintain the size of the Earth’s population. Yet, looking around the planet, we don’t seem to lack people in fact most would agree we’re overpopulated. In truth, mothers have been subtly ensuring not only the survival of their familial line and the human species, but also the population of certain religious and cultural tribes whose dogmas encourage women to keep reproducing despite the desperate poverty many families face.
I believe the inherent cycles of a woman’s body reveal that every woman is a mother, not only of children, but of seeds of inspiration or consciousness. This means that mother’s day is a celebration of every woman not just once a year but every month. Let’s look at some figures to back up this idea. On average, every woman has about 420 menstrual cycles stretched over approximately 35 years; a potential 420 attempts to become a mother. That is a lot of reproductive cycling to ensure the global mean number of children born to each woman at 1.2. Statistically, this seems to be an extraordinary example of overkill. The Creator could have provided us with perhaps 2-3 years of cycles to offer choice and successful proliferation of the species. So why would the Great Mother, designer of all life, flagrantly waste her resources? I suggest these extra 400 reproductive cycles are connected not to the procreation, but to the delivery of inspiration and insights every month, which are then fed to the children and family so that they can grow and expand consciously, surely one of the most important wish of any mother.
The body teaches a woman that the three most important features of giving birth to anything precious are these:
- Cleanse and purify the vessel, the receptacle of the seed or egg, mirrored by the preparation of the nursery for the baby or the clearing the ground of old roots and weeds by gardeners in the spring. This is process occurs each month during the menses or moon time.
- Encourage the development and growth of the seed until it is ready to be born through optimal nourishment which is likened to the baby receiving nourishment within the womb and the planting of seeds deep within the darkness of fertilized soil. This is reflected in the estrogen or follicular phase of the menstrual cycle culminating in ovulation or release of the egg.
- Love, strengthen and release the child by offering bonding and nurturing at the breast as it leaves the comfort of the womb and prepares to walk confidently on Mother Earth enjoying all the pleasures she offers. This mirrors the progesterone or luteal phase which is traditionally seen as the time to ‘hope or pray’ that the egg is fertilized by the sperm, otherwise the whole cycle was for nothing. Towards the end of this phase, a woman prepares for menses and the shedding of the lining of the uterus in preparation for a new egg or seed.
Few women today are taught to value and honor their cycles or to prepare their bodies to receive a baby other than changing diet and maintaining a healthy diet. This lack of regard for our own birth-giving power and natural way of regenerating life, I believe, has lead to many of the illnesses associated with female organs.
Let’s go through the phases in turn:
- Cleansing the vessel. The womb or uterus has several functions all of which are associated with transformation. The best known is to nurture the growing child and eventually push the baby into the world. But it is also able to take redundant beliefs and painful emotions and transform them into blood. This natural process known as grief helps us let go of the past and make way for a bright new future.Before a woman plans to conceive seeds of inspiration or a baby, it’s vitally important to clear out all old emotion and beliefs connected to motherhood or being a woman, otherwise she may experience infertility or problems with her menstrual cycle, such as painful or heavy bleeds. In particular, it’s essential to clear out the emotions and pain of the past three generations of women, by asking our mother, grandmothers or aunts about their female wounds and what needs to happen to bring healing. If they are not physically available, then it’s possible to use visual imagery to imagine meeting them at a well and asking them the same questions.Then, using our natural source of cleansing, the menstrual cycle, we can metaphorically ask to release all old emotions, on the first day of the period. For a postmenopausal woman, she can infuse a glass of water with all the unwanted emotions and thoughts and pour the water onto Mother Earth on the day before the new moon.
- Developing the seed. On the third day of the menstrual cycle or the day after the new moon, a woman is more than usually attuned to intuitive insights. This is a great time to enjoy the creative energy of the next 10 days which encourages the expression of these inspirational seeds. If however, we gather the ideas but fail to develop or nurture them, we are much more likely to develop disease of the thyroid, ovaries or uterus.
- Love, strengthen and release. This phase is all about love; love of ourselves and the ability to receive love. When we feel loved it’s far easier to love another person unconditionally, holding them close to develop their physical strength and confidence and then letting them go emotionally to live their own life. When we feel unloved, we may be unable to offer emotional love at the breast or conversely we may hold the child to the breast far too long, believing that our child’s love is the only way we can feel love. Both states can lead to breast disease in the mother or child. When we look at the menstrual cycle, many women experience problems in this luteal phase with 65% of women complaining of symptoms of premenstrual syndrome (PMS) including bloating, irritability, painful breasts and exhaustion. In my opinion, PMS is associated with lack of self-love and nurturing and an inability to let go of relationships and identities in our life (however destructive they may be) for fear of the void. Yet, only by clearing our womb can we give birth to new life on a monthly basis.
So, happy Mother’s day to all women, whatever your age, as you awaken to your true power and destiny as a beautiful, curvaceous and sensual being, created in the image of the Great Mother.